Straight men going gay
Sexual identities and sexual behaviours don’t always match because sexuality is multidimensional. Many people recognizesexual fluidity, and some even identify as “mostlystraight.”
Fewer people realize that some men and womenhave lgbtq+ encounters, yet nonetheless perceive themselves as exclusively straight. And these people are not necessarily “closeted” gays, lesbians or bisexuals.
When a closeted gay or bisexual man has sex with another man, he views that sex as reflecting his classified identity. He is not open about that identity, likely because he fears discrimination. When a straight man has sex with another man, however, he views himself as straight despite his sex with men.
In my guide, Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among Colorless Men in Rural America, I inspect why some men who identify as straight have sex with other men. Large nationally typical surveys show that hundreds of thousands of straight American men — at least — own had sex with two or more other men. This finding represents a disconnect between self and behaviour, and researchers from
Long-suffering Spectator readers deserve a seasonal break from yet another Remoaner diatribe from me. My last on this page, making the outrageous suggestion that the populace may sometimes be wrong, is now creature brandished by online Leaver-readers of my Times column as proof that I am in fact a fascist; so there isn’t anywhere much to proceed from there.
Instead, I change to sex. There is little time left for me to write about sex as the thoughts of a septuagenarian on this subject (I change 70 this year) may soon meet only a shudder. But I possess a theory which I have the audacity to think important.
What follows is not written here for the first time, and much of it is neither original nor new; but on very not many subjects have I ever been more sure I’m right, or more sure that future generations will see so, and wonder that it stared us in the face yet was not acknowledged. My firm belief is that in trying to categorise sex, sexuality and — yes — even gender, the late 19th, 20th and early 21st centuries have taken the medical and social sciences down a massive bl
This is why straight men sometimes seek out gay sex.
Here’s a trend that has a lot of people confused. On matchmaking app sites and apps there’s a growing new category: gay men seeking sex with straight men. Or straight men seeking sex with gay men.
In America, there are reportedly more than three million men who identify as straight – but secretly hold sex with other men.
A recent piece on explored this trend, pointing out that 10 per cent of ‘male seeking male’ ads, were asking for men who did not identify as gay or bi. On superior of this, 24 per cent of ‘male seeking male’ ads were actually posted by men who were not gay or bi.
So why do straight men sometimes seek out gay sex?
Therapist Joe Kort, speaking to Salon, said that it wasn’t necessarily because these men are closeted or actually bisexual. Instead, he theorised that men merely love how easy it was to get this type of sex.
Many people become confused about this because they think these men are gay or at least bi because they are hooking up with other men… But these men are not attracted to the men, they are attr
Why do some straight men have sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the United States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the new book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they love a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly detecting with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why do straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they