Pretended to be gay
I live in Rwanda. Recently, a visiting Instagram influencer with millions of followers posted a benign picture with Rwandan children she had met on the streets. Instagram activists targeted her for "colonialism." I work in the hospitality business and I'm irked that activists harass tourists for harmless stuff when we need to be as welcoming as doable. A close friend was involved: should I confront him? And if so, how?
Eh, I don't perceive about "confront." The thing about confrontation is that it puts people on the defensive, which is never a great place to start a conversation. Instead, I'd suggest sharing your perspective without specifically indicting your friend: show to one of these controversies and talk generally about why you detect them frustrating and unhelpful. Your friend may or may not realize that his activism chases away the clients who aid you earn a living, but hearing you chat about how it impacts you might help him think about it in a different way.
Need sane advice for an insane world? Send your questions to Kat Rosenfield at @ We SAN FRANCISCO (CBS SF) - An evangelical Christian from Tennessee has sparked controversy with a unused book about his experience pretending to be a lgbtq+ man for a year. Timothy Kurek, from Nashville pretended to be gay for a year, according to an article on Kurek was home schooled, and was raised going to a Christian Cub Scout troop, which taught him to be "wary of gays" according to the article. After discovering an LGBT equal rights community in , and struggling with his own friend's coming out, he decided to be false 'fake gay' in Kurek enlisted a a friend to be his imitation boyfriend, and create a job as a barista at a café. After a year pretending to be gay, Kurek 'came out' as straight on National Coming Out Day. Kurek eventually wrote a book about the experience, "The Cross in the Closet". Some members of the LGBT community were angered by Kurek's actions. "I feel for the gay people of Nashville…and for every person who trusted Kurek enough to flirt with him," Amy Lieberman reacted on (Copyright by CBS San Francisco. All rights reserved. This material may not Like Timothy Kurek, the man making media rounds for "pretending to be gay" for one year, I was raised in an evangelical household. A Christian since the age of 4, I was taught right and erroneous through the lens of the Bible. Homosexuality was always something I knew was wrong. My parents didn't even permit me to watch "Will and Grace" for fear that it might confuse my values. Timothy and I have something else in shared. Our best friends later came out to both of us, challenging everything we believed about ourselves, God, homosexuality and the Bible. The difference is I didn't decide to pretend to be gay for a year to learn about the LGBT community. Instead, I asked them to teach me, from their own experiences. From my first Celebration parade, to the hours I spent with strangers discussing God, my identity was never a lie. There were no secrets. I was straight and a Christian. Before deciding to fully invest myself (as much as possible) in the LGBT collective, I feared that this would close doors. Surely these people who had been bullied, rejected and hated by others characterizing t For decades, I've been a relentless supporter of LGBTQ people, marching in parades, donating to LGBTQ nonprofits, and supporting family and friends. But recently, when I started telling an anecdote from my past to some of those matching friends, I realized I had a lot left to learn about creature an ally. At 51 — after decades of being immersed in LGBTQ communities — I had to face my prejudices. One Saturday afternoon, I was walking around an upscale store in Washington, DC, and became enamored with a couch that was out of my price range. A slender, immature saleswoman caught me circling it and walked over. "Can I help you with something?" she asked. The woman was wearing a camouflage sleeveless top and had cropped strawberry-blond hair. "This couch is just so gorgeous," I giggled, embarrassed by my over-the-top enthusi
I'm straight but flirted with another woman to receive a discount on a couch. I consider myself an LGBTQ ally, but my friends called me out for my behavior.
When I was in my 20s, I pretended to be gay and flirted with a young saleswoman