I love my gay friend

Dear girl I was probably in affectionate with before I realized I was gay:

Okay, you got me. I probably was in cherish with you. In my defense, I had convinced myself that thinking about you all the time and wanting to spend every day with you and trying to find excuses to talk to you and memorizing the contours of your face, your voice, your smile when you looked at me were all just things that good buddies did. I felt that my greatest purpose was making you laugh until your eyes welled up with tears, and I also consideration that most besties thought that about their gal pals.

When the prickling feeling that it may have been sentimental love tugged at my heart, I would simply pluck a random female classmate and conceive myself kissing her, and the lack of desire I would feel at that fantasy convinced me that I cared not for you to any sapphic degree. That was my terrible, sorry if I ever made it awkward.

The fact that I wanted to lie with you on top of a mountain with nobody around while we traced the stars with our eyes and made plans for our shared future genuinely did not strike me as anything but p

I'm so sorry that this is so painful for you. It really can be when we hold feelings for someone, and/or want a certain compassionate of relationship, that isn't mutual, isn't going to happen, or just isn't right. And I'm sorry for this whole thing: this sounds like something that must have been really emotionally disorienting and dizzying for you.

But if you're asking me, I think, as a presumably heterosexual woman, doing anything else to set yourself up to wait for a gay guy to come around and desire to really be in a romantic and sexual relationship with you, once in which he has all those kinds of feelings and desires, is setting yourself up for way more heartbreak than you've already experienced. I'd suggest that however much it hurts now, starting to detach yourself from that hope ASAP is going to spare you (both) a lot more heartbreak in the future.

So you don't think that this decision of his has anything to perform with the fear of commitment or hurting me?


I'm not sure what decision you mean, but I can't imagine a fear of hurting your feelings isn't a colossal part of all of this for h

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I have a similar situation with my bond. My boyfriends gay comrade is inLove with him and he doesn&#;t recognize that.  there is so many things that create me realize that.

1 they see each other once a week to liquid in a bar, when they do and obtain drunk, my boyfriends homosexual friend starts complementing him  in front of me , like his handsome, touching his arm ( in a way that makes me uncomfortable), looking him with this in love eyes. start making inappropriate joke

2 he had a picture of a naked guy that looks like my boyfriend and even he shows the pictures to everybody. and he start saying  DOESNT HE LOOK LIKE HIM???

3  he told my crush that he heard that i was dating one of his friends  a couple of times( guy that I don&#;t even know). obviously lies.. don&#;t know what was exactly his intention.

4 he invited my boyfriend first  to an island  and a week after he mentioned and then he invited me .. ( last minute) obiously my boyfriend/girlfriend didn&#;t

How Do I Help My Homosexual Friend?

by D’Ann Davis

“How do I help my gay friend?”  This is a question we catch constantly in the Living Pray office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world.  Twenty years ago scant Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles.  Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as male lover or deals with a measure of same gender attractions.  Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of existence where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this ask is of utmost importance in light of the change of our culture and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly talk about their issues.  So how does one help a gay-identified comrade or SGA friend?

The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question.  “Does your friend know Jesus?”  This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attem